Abusive Past

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Fan Question:
“Hi sorry to bother you im just looking for sum advice im new to the lable of a 24/7 submissive ive had a previous relationship where my submission was abused so now ive been extremely bad and been very bratty to the poin where my sir as questiond my submissiveness and he got extremely aggressive with me and told me I just wanna be dominated not submissive x it really hurts deep inside when I displease him x but he lost his temper sud I stay accept my punishment for being bad or as he crossed the line losing his temper with me x”

Answer: Everyone is allowed to lose their temper, and everyone is allowed to make mistakes. I think the main thing is where you guys go from here. I think the best thing is to sit down and have a good, open discussion (without pointing any blame) and talk about the facts. Where do you want your relationship to go? What can you both do to improve the communication, etc. He also has to understand (and you should tell him, if he doesn’t already know) about your past.. because that will change how you react and how you submit.. even if you don’t realize it. It’s a part of you.

Punishments?

Fan Question: “I’m new to this and my girlfriend keeps saying I should punish her when she does something really bad. But i dont know what or how stiff should I be with the punishment. What is a good punishment for something real bad? Any help would be appreciated”Answer: Hi, limits, rewards and punishments should be discussed and agreed upon with your partner. Talk to her about rules should be enforced and what punishments should be in place when she breaks those rules. For instance, if I forget to do an important chore.. I will get spankings. If I back talk or get bratty, I get the silent treatment and/or denial.