Fan Question: “I have been with my husband foe a long time and love him dearly. I have been on a dom/sub relationship before and feel the need to do this again. I have tried several things with hubby but it just doesn’t do anything for him.I feel the need every day to have this the desire for a dom consumes me. Should I look for an external relationship to satisfy this. I don’t want to leave hubby but our marriage doesn’t satisfy me anymore.”
It sounds like you really need to put it out there and communicate your needs with your husband. Talk to him about what it means to you and how you feel you can negotiate it. You can even try to go over our BDSM Checklist with him and see if anything strikes his interest. However, if it’s not interested, then he’s not interested and you’ll have to make a decision on what to do next. I would never suggest cheating, but perhaps an open relationship between the you and your husband would be a better fit.. or maybe even suggest a Poly relationship.