Since the start of ASI we’ve always suggested the first step to talking to your partner about BDSM is going over our BDSM checklist. It’s a great way to break the ice, introduce new ideas and begin an open discussion about your desires.
Our list is extensive and over the past 10 months it has grown quite a bit! We’ve put a lot of work into creating this list and if you ever have questions about some of the terms, you are welcome to contact us.
We decided to transfer our original checklist into a handy printable Word document and an easy to read PDF file. It is condensed down to 8 pages with two columns per page (to reduce pages used when printing). If you ever have a question about the list, you can always contact us.
Remember, our checklist will always be free. You’ll never be charged to download it, so feel free to download it now… or later!
I have been reading a bit about things like contracts, stipulations, and protocol within a BDSM relationship. These seem to be more common in D/s relationships, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t make use of some part of them, no matter what your relationship status. First, I would like to make sure everyone knows what, exactly, the subtle differences are between those three words.
Fan Questions: “I recently meet sumone and he said there’s no limits. This will actually be my first time being his submissive should there be any limits.?”
Answer: YES! There should ALWAYS be limits! Everyone has a breaking point and you should always negotiate what your hard and soft limits are. Discuss everything with a potential partner before you play with them. Here is a great negotiation form to start with: http://www.bdsm-education.com/negotiation.html
I also want to add that if ANY dom(me) tries to tell you that there are no limits, that you aren’t allowed to have a safeword or that you can’t have a safe call or buddy at a first meeting.. they are deliberately taking advantage of you and they do not deserve the title “Dom(me)”.