Written by Delilah Night. Republished with exclusive permission.
This is an article I wrote to address an absence of information surrounding the topic of Pregnant BDSM. I was approximately 8 weeks from finishing my first successful pregnancy, and when I choose to become pregnant again, I hope that I’m in a position to revise and edit this further.
This was an article that was challenging to write. I am not an expert, nor am I pro domme, a doctor, a midwife, or anything other than a kinky woman who while pregnant wanted to safely continue practicing BDSM. I searched the web for advice as to what was safe at which point in the pregnancy and found a vacuum, rather than solid advice. Due to that dearth of information, I decided to present my findings and my experiences for public consumption.
I got my information through exhaustive querying of the internet, doctors, nurses, EMT’s, Kinksters who are also parents that I met at lifestyle events, pro-dommes, presenters at Dark Odyssey 2008 and Floating World 2008, and anyone who I thought might know anything about the topic. I made a lot of people embarrassed, but slowly I gained information, found practices that I felt safe engaging in, some new practices to try, and met a lot of cool people (and squicked a few people as well).
This is by no means a comprehensive discussion and you should do research on your own and discuss with your partner what boundaries and lines YOU are comfortable with. I am not a medical professional, and I take no responsibility or liability for results of activities discussed herein.