Am I Kinky Enough? (Your Kink Is Not My Kink and That’s Okay)

img-thingOver the past 18+ months ASI has helped hundreds, if not thousands, of people discover who they are within the bondage community. We get many different degrees of “kinky” people that contact us with questions regarding their specific kinks and that gives me the wonderful opportunity to expand my knowledge on lesser known fetishes and bondage practices. It’s a great experience to be able to look at something and say “Hey, it’s interesting that someone finds that attractive, but I don’t think it’s for me.”

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Race Play and Being a Black Submissive

What is BDSM?

The simple definition, as found through Wikipedia, is a variety of erotic practices involving Dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics 1

There under this umbrella terminology includes relationships. D/s (Dominant/submissive), M/s (Master/slave), and Tops/bottoms.

In this post, the discussion will focus on being a submissive or slave in the lifestyle while also living as a black man or woman.

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Shocking Tips to Electrosex Stimulation

Most people have played with some kind of vibrator. Do you remember the first time you applied one (or had one applied) to your genitals? Felt pretty good didn’t it? At the least, it was something new and different. Electrostimulation is a lot like that only even more unique. It’s a wonderful way to add some new fun to your sex life. The proper electric current causes both the stimulation of nerve endings and involuntary muscle stimulation. Both of these effects can be combined for a very erotic experience. Some people also use electrostimulation for S&M play. It’s an excellent way to explore the pleasure/pain boundary without the usual risks of damage or lasting pain to the body. It can be precisely controlled and when it’s over, the one submitting to the stimulation is none the worse for the experience (something that cannot be said for most kinds of S&M play).

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Tantra and BDSM…..Wait, What?

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Why might Tantric practices be considered a part of BDSM? Well, there are several reasons why I think it fits in very well. I could talk about this in great length and detail, but for the sake of this article, I will try to keep it simple and to the point, lightly touching on what I believe are some valid parallels. I will also assume that the reader has a basic understanding of a loose definition of Tantric practices, or at least has heard of it in some way. If you have not, I recommend reading about it on Wikipedia for a standardized and historical definition, so as to understand what I am covering here. I believe your intuition and experience will carry you through this article if you have even that minimal knowledge. Continue reading

The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play

 

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For some time now, I have felt that the practices of suffocation and/or strangulation done in an erotic context (generically known as breath control play; more properly known as asphyxiophilia) were in fact far more dangerous than they are generally perceived to be. As a person with years of medical education and experience, I know of no way whatsoever that either suffocation or strangulation can be done in a way that does not intrinsically put the recipient at risk of cardiac arrest. (There are also numerous additional risks; more on them later.) Furthermore, and my
*biggest* concern, I know of no reliable way to determine when such a cardiac arrest has become imminent. 

 

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