A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Munches

munchpin(Version 1.4, written 8/14/03)
Copyright 2003 by Jay Wiseman
Author of “SM 101: A Realistic Introduction”Hello and welcome to the munch! Perhaps this is your first munch. Perhaps this is your first BDSM event of any kind. Congratulations for contacting what many of us call the BDSM community (or, more simply, “the scene”). You are on the threshold of meeting many new people, having many new experiences, and both learning and growing a great deal. By the way, “BDSM” is a general, overall term for what we do. The term is pronounced just like its letters – B D S M – and represents a compression of the phrases “bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism.”

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Top 10 FAQ About Getting Involved in the BDSM Community


Every day at A Submissive’s Initiative™ we get countless messages and emails about how to get involved in BDSM and the community so I’ve decided to put together a handy list of our top 10 FAQ for easy reference. 

  1. How do I get my partner to do what I want? The quick answer? You don’t. You can’t just make someone like the same fetishes or even be comfortable with the slightest reference to bondage. You can, however, use open communication to help them understand why you think that BDSM is important and/or can help better your relationship.
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What Makes You A Daddy Dom?

Our Windy Meadoes by Laura Makabresku

Our Windy Meadoes by Laura Makabresku

Written by http://notsogrowedup.wordpress.com

When it comes to Daddy Dom/little girl relationships, it takes two very unique and specific types of people to make the relationship work. It is not enough simply to be a dominant or a submissive, you need to be more than that to fulfill the roles of either a Daddy Dom or a little. i have already talked about what makes you a little in my post How Do You Know if You are a Little and now it is on to the other half of the relationship, the Daddy Dom.

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Multiple Submissives

Fan Question:“Can a master have more than one sub? Or is this just some thing that is frowned upon in the bdsm world ?”There are many Masters that have more than one sub. And also who have subs in varying stages. From consideration, subs in training, full time subs, long distance subs, all the way up to slaves. Some Masters have sexual connotations with all of their subs. Others are only sexual with certain subs. Its definitely not anything frowned upon as long as all of it is honest safe and consensual.

BDSM and How to Bring it to Life in your Vanilla Marriage


BDSM and D/s relationships have been in existence for as long as there have been relationships! In fact, back in the 1950s it wasn’t uncommon to see ads depicting husbands spanking their wives over their laps. Of course over time, images and even the prospect of these acts happening in the home were deemed sexist and demeaning. Couples living the lifestyle went into hiding for fear of being seen as deviant and possibly locked up for such reasons.

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