How Do You Play?

!!!!!If you have been in the lifestyle for any amount of time, even for those of you who are really new, I’m willing to bet that you’ve heard of SSC. If you’ve been around the lifestyle a little longer, then you’ve probably also heard of RACK. Two practices that you probably haven’t heard of(I hadn’t heard of them until a month or so ago! It could be that I’m just behind the times!)is PRICK and the other one, is CCC. If you ask me, that’s A LOT of letters to remember! There tends to be confusion with the more acronyms there becomes, especially if they’re ones that people haven’t heard of before. So, I’m going to help straighten it out for everyone.

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Hog Tie Rope Bondage Tutorial

You’ll need 50’ of rope, or two 30’ pieces if you start the wrist binding with a new rope.

This is a really nice full body restraint that can be adjusted depending how firmly you cinch the hands and feet together.

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BDSM Basics: Three Steps to The Care and Keeping of a Frequently Spanked Bottom

Written by Alex Reynolds

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Alex in Spankingland

I don’t know if you guys have noticed this or not, but I get spanked a lot. I almost always get a spanking at bedtime, and more often than not, I find myself getting some sort of impromptu spanking in addition to that.

The other day, one of my friends asked me how I manage to keep my butt from falling off when I get spanked so damn much (and often, so damn hard). It’s a challenge, I will tell you! When I first moved in with Malignus and I was adapting to getting spanked so often, plus my skin was outraged at the change in climate and this “winter” thing that was happening, I had some problems with weird, hard, dried out skin on my bottom and thighs. Over the past couple of months, though, I’ve perfected my butt-skincare regime, which I will now share with all of you! I’ve written this in the form of instructions, but I certainly don’t think that I’m the shining beacon of right in the black night of wrongness. I’m very open to suggestion, or to being ignored entirely. 😛

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Love Bites Gloves Product Review

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I first saw the Love Bite Gloves posted randomly in a group and I was thrilled to see that Serene was accepting reviews, so, of course, I emailed her and in a few weeks I had my own set of Love Bite Gloves! I tried them out right away and had to show my mom, who didn’t care for the feel, and my sister, who though I was weird, but I just LOVED them! Of course, that was at a first glance so I had to do some testing and inspection for all of you! 🙂

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BDSM and Marriage

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Fan Question: “I have been with my husband foe a long time and love him dearly. I have been on a dom/sub relationship before and feel the need to do this again. I have tried several things with hubby but it just doesn’t do anything for him.I feel the need every day to have this the desire for a dom consumes me. Should I look for an external relationship to satisfy this. I don’t want to leave hubby but our marriage doesn’t satisfy me anymore.”

It sounds like you really need to put it out there and communicate your needs with your husband. Talk to him about what it means to you and how you feel you can negotiate it. You can even try to go over our BDSM Checklist with him and see if anything strikes his interest. However, if it’s not interested, then he’s not interested and you’ll have to make a decision on what to do next. I would never suggest cheating, but perhaps an open relationship between the you and your husband would be a better fit.. or maybe even suggest a Poly relationship.

No Longer a Mental Disorder!

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For those of you who haven’t heard, this past June, the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom(NCSF) announced on their website that BDSM is no longer considered a mental disorder, which means it will no longer show up in the DSM-5, the latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders which is compiled by the American Psychiatric Association. This is great news for anyone who practices any form of the lifestyle because a long time stigma of people who participate in the lifestyle are mentally ill has officially been removed. Let me give you a bit of history about BDSM and the DSM.

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BDSM Basics: Impact Play Safe Zones and Spanking Tips

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Green = Safe Zones

Yellow = risk zones

Use caution when directly hitting these area or how frequently you hit these areas.

Red = Danger areas

Avoid direct hits to these areas.

Purple circles = Critical Areas

In no event shall these areas receive direct blows or sustain any direct or prolonged pressure. These areas are key to blood circulation, nervous or major joints.

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