Pet Play by MistressKay

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Pet play is the act of pretending to be an animal or taking on animal-like tendencies. It isn’t usually used for arousal purposes although some do use it that way. It usually is just used as a way to escape from regular life responsibilities. If you are a cute, snuggly kitty, you don’t have to pay the bills or clean the sink – you can just relax and focus on being a little mindless pet.

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Letting Go

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Fan Question:

“I need some advice. I have always been in control. I gave up that control to my Master/boyfriend and sometimes have a hard time letting it go. I can be a bit of a brat and I don’t want to disappoint him. What can I do to let go of the control?”

Answer:

Being a brat isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It just depends on when you are a brat and the reasons behind the brattiness. For some Dominants it can be an endearing quality, but you have to remember that being demanding and argumentative are not likable characteristics for any submissive and honestly goes against what being a submissive is.

If you feel a bratty moment coming a long, tell your Dom! Just say I really feel ____ or I’d like to really ____ right now. Being honest is part of developing a healthy relationship and is absolutely necessary for making a BDSM relationship work. Communication can go a long way, so let him/her know you are struggling with this aspect. That way they can recognize when you are struggling and try to help you through it. It’s a Dominant’s job to guide you, so let them help!

You can also start a journal to keep track of your bratty moments. Think about what triggered the feeling, what helped you calm down or what pushed you over the edge, and ways you can handle future issues.

Good luck!

Free BDSM Checklist Downloads

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Since the start of ASI we’ve always suggested the first step to talking to your partner about BDSM is going over our BDSM checklist. It’s a great way to break the ice, introduce new ideas and begin an open discussion about your desires.

Our list is extensive and over the past 10 months it has grown quite a bit! We’ve put a lot of work into creating this list and if you ever have questions about some of the terms, you are welcome to contact us.

We decided to transfer our original checklist into a handy printable Word document and an easy to read PDF file. It is condensed down to 8 pages with two columns per page (to reduce pages used when printing). If you ever have a question about the list, you can always contact us.

Remember, our checklist will always be free. You’ll never be charged to download it, so feel free to download it now… or later!

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What can a Contract do for You?

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I have been reading a bit about things like contracts, stipulations, and protocol within a BDSM relationship. These seem to be more common in D/s relationships, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t make use of some part of them, no matter what your relationship status.  First, I would like to make sure everyone knows what, exactly, the subtle differences are between those three words.

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