Abusive Past

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Fan Question:
“Hi sorry to bother you im just looking for sum advice im new to the lable of a 24/7 submissive ive had a previous relationship where my submission was abused so now ive been extremely bad and been very bratty to the poin where my sir as questiond my submissiveness and he got extremely aggressive with me and told me I just wanna be dominated not submissive x it really hurts deep inside when I displease him x but he lost his temper sud I stay accept my punishment for being bad or as he crossed the line losing his temper with me x”

Answer: Everyone is allowed to lose their temper, and everyone is allowed to make mistakes. I think the main thing is where you guys go from here. I think the best thing is to sit down and have a good, open discussion (without pointing any blame) and talk about the facts. Where do you want your relationship to go? What can you both do to improve the communication, etc. He also has to understand (and you should tell him, if he doesn’t already know) about your past.. because that will change how you react and how you submit.. even if you don’t realize it. It’s a part of you.

3 thoughts on “Abusive Past

  1. Good advice above. May I also offer another suggestion. When you have this conversation it is imperative that both of you put your “titles” ( Sir/Dom/submissive/whichever) and discuss things on NEUTRAL territory. First and foremost you are a HUMAN being and deserve to feel safe within your relationship. Temper losing happens but needs to be figured out before it gets more than just a lost temper. Temper/anger should NEVER be involved while scening or “play time”: ( or whichever word you use to describe specifics times of service/punishment/play/scene/role play/…… )

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